Do You Think You're Pretty?

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kinkyturtle:

avri-wallflower:

sourcedumal:

Fuck special snowflakes who think like this.
Gurl bye
Your ass ain’t fucking special because you don’t wear makeup.
You’re not fucking better than the woman with large breasts who wears tank tops.
You’re a piece of shit because you are putting sexist stereotypes onto other women in some anti-feminine bullshit.

If you don’t like it, why’d you comment on it? I think it’s awesome and you’re probably one of the girls up there that wears makeup and shortshorts and tiny tanktops. And most kids today wear makeup because they think they aren’t pretty and need it. So deal with it. And get over yourself.

girl bye.
lemme tell you something: I wear tons of fucking make up. I wear short dresses. I walk around with a face that looks about as fake as it can get outside of a fucking barbie doll. and I like it that way. and, despite what you seem to think, no, it’s not because i think i’m ugly. i just fucking like makeup (and trust, i’ve spent years examining my own motivations and how they’re tied to internalized self-hated, fatphobia and misogyny so don’t EVEN cause you don’t know what you’re talking about).
I also read ravenously; engage in discourse regarding philosphy, art, economics, politics, race, gender, sexuality; make subversive art; and love comics and film and music. I’M A FUCKING PERSON IS WHAT I’M SAYING. 
like how fucking deep is this goddamn image when the spine of the book JUST SAYS THE WORD ‘BOOK’.
this kind of bullshit narrative, other than furthering a misogynistic dichotomy that pits women against each other, is also a complete fucking fallacy. A huge majority of average women DON’T DO THIS. you aren’t the lone plain jane in an army of cake-faced, bottle blonde barbies—if you look around, you’ll see that most women just throw on jeans and tops and very little makeup. 
I get that this kind of shit is an attempt to fight back against media-made images of what womanhood is supposed to be. I get it. (thought isn’t it interesting that the “weirdo” in the picture is still thin and conventionally attractive??)
but attacking other women who you perceive as being stupid or carbon copies because of their fucking appearance doesn’t fight back against shit. it actually does EXACTLY what the patriarchy wants us to do—engenders more hatred and competition between women. 
but you know, whatever, continue to think you’re so goddamn special. i’ll be over here reading AND wearing hot pink lipstick and having a hell of a time doing it. 


This is a fantastic representation of the evolution of my own beliefs about femininity. God help you if you think having weird hair and reading books automatically makes you “cool”.

kinkyturtle:

avri-wallflower:

sourcedumal:

Fuck special snowflakes who think like this.

Gurl bye

Your ass ain’t fucking special because you don’t wear makeup.

You’re not fucking better than the woman with large breasts who wears tank tops.

You’re a piece of shit because you are putting sexist stereotypes onto other women in some anti-feminine bullshit.

If you don’t like it, why’d you comment on it? I think it’s awesome and you’re probably one of the girls up there that wears makeup and shortshorts and tiny tanktops. And most kids today wear makeup because they think they aren’t pretty and need it. So deal with it. And get over yourself.

girl bye.

lemme tell you something: I wear tons of fucking make up. I wear short dresses. I walk around with a face that looks about as fake as it can get outside of a fucking barbie doll. and I like it that way. and, despite what you seem to think, no, it’s not because i think i’m ugly. i just fucking like makeup (and trust, i’ve spent years examining my own motivations and how they’re tied to internalized self-hated, fatphobia and misogyny so don’t EVEN cause you don’t know what you’re talking about).

I also read ravenously; engage in discourse regarding philosphy, art, economics, politics, race, gender, sexuality; make subversive art; and love comics and film and music. I’M A FUCKING PERSON IS WHAT I’M SAYING. 

like how fucking deep is this goddamn image when the spine of the book JUST SAYS THE WORD ‘BOOK’.

this kind of bullshit narrative, other than furthering a misogynistic dichotomy that pits women against each other, is also a complete fucking fallacy. A huge majority of average women DON’T DO THIS. you aren’t the lone plain jane in an army of cake-faced, bottle blonde barbies—if you look around, you’ll see that most women just throw on jeans and tops and very little makeup. 

I get that this kind of shit is an attempt to fight back against media-made images of what womanhood is supposed to be. I get it. (thought isn’t it interesting that the “weirdo” in the picture is still thin and conventionally attractive??)

but attacking other women who you perceive as being stupid or carbon copies because of their fucking appearance doesn’t fight back against shit. it actually does EXACTLY what the patriarchy wants us to do—engenders more hatred and competition between women. 

but you know, whatever, continue to think you’re so goddamn special. i’ll be over here reading AND wearing hot pink lipstick and having a hell of a time doing it. 

This is a fantastic representation of the evolution of my own beliefs about femininity. God help you if you think having weird hair and reading books automatically makes you “cool”.

(via sugaredvenom)

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The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, they must inspire you to say “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.
The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” also states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, THEY must respond with a “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.
Lovely post about the law of Fuck Yes by Mark Manson, sent to me by someone on Twitter! 

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Anonymous asked: I am an adult man, and I like to consider myself at least reasonably understanding of women and how I treat them. However, when I read some of the bullshit people say to defend their sexist behavior, it sounds too similar to thoughts that go through my head. Can you provide commentary on these possibly sexist thoughts: I just like to look and admire a beautiful woman, what's wrong with staring? Man, that [actress, comedian, artist] is super cute. (This is a serious question/request)

Oh sweetie, you’re fine. We all have some hilariously fucked up and dark thoughts. The difference between the awesome people and the not as awesome people is that the awesome people understand that sometimes thoughts don’t have to be, and maybe shouldn’t be. broadcast to the world. The idiots just say whatever pops into their head and declare themselves free speech mavericks. 

Feel free to celebrate yourself as being part of the lovely members of society who don’t feel that thinking something means it’s their god-given right to shove that thought into someone else’s face. Enjoy your dirty weird dark thoughts and know that we all have them. 

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Most artists take their invitation to DJ for Boiler Room very seriously. Then there is Grimes. The Boiler Room hit Ibiza today for a party at influential electronic artist/DJ Richie Hawtin’s house, and Grimes was present to provide music for an hour. Instead of digging for some deep cuts and giving the people what they want, Grimes took a very different route.

Her set included Taylor Swift, Daddy Yankee, Venga Boys, and, of course, Mariah Carey’s “All I Want For Christmas is You.” She played the music off of her iPod.

God bless Grimes. 

(Source: jamesdeenhateclub, via sugaredvenom)

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Anonymous asked: I'm in a long term relationship and I don't think I'm happy. I couldn't say he's emotionally abusive but he's definitely emotionally draining. I am exhausted all the time. We've been like this for a year. I know I still love him but I don't know what to do.

So here’s a thing about love: it’s not a thing that is forged in titanium at the beginning of a relationship and stays constant and true no matter what harm befouls it along the way. Love is a cocktail you make with another person, and it should be constantly tested, stirred up, enhanced, and sipped slowly. Is that how your relationship feels? 

You say you still love him, but why? Because you had feelings for him early on, when he was being lovely and you were being lovely and you two made each other into these gorgeous, full of love, glowy objects that could do anything? Part of love is absolutely sticking with each other through tough times and seeing each other eye to eye and together, fighting the miseries that can come with long term relationships, but that “fighting the miseries together” part doesn’t seem like it’s happening here. If you’re just staying in a relationship based on how it used to be, with no efforts at getting that back, what are you doing there? 

I think we have taken too many weird “stand by your man” and “till death do us part” lessons to heart- and I say this as a person who stayed in a relationship three years longer than I should have. I’m not immune to this. Relationships aren’t a thing to be endured because, goddamnit, I love him- they’re a thing you create with another person where you deserve their kindness and support, and they deserve yours. 

This relationship has been dead for a year, and you’re exhausted. That doesn’t sound like love to me, it sounds like habit. And habit can be comfortable in its familiarity, but it’s no way to live.

Have a talk with him, tell him that you’re wondering if this relationship can get back to a healthier place, and if you are BOTH willing to try to get it there, great. Otherwise, let the relationship go. Some of the best relationships in history have been time limited- not every love story is forever. Make the decision that will keep yourself healthy and happy, and know that being healthy and happy is an option for you- even if you’re in a relationship.